Have you ever met anyone who tells you that their life panned out exactly the way they planned it? Actually, you may meet a few of these individuals and this is what may confuse you more when your life does not exactly turn out the way you planned it. If you are one of those for whom life turned out the way you planned it, then this article is not for you. But if you are one of those (the majority are not), then read on to know how to deal with this.
The thing is, people advise you not to have too many hopes and plans to avoid disappointment but this is just not possible human nature being what it is. We live in a world where from childhood we are told to aim high, work hard and achieve our goals (which is not at all bad advice). What is more, today we have access to many sources of information that tells us about what others have achieved and this adds to our expectations even if at a subconscious level without our even being aware of it. All these factors build up our hope and expectations and when reality falls short of it, it can lead to a lot of disappointment and disillusionment. This reaction is not at all surprising and it is only natural to feel the pinch of disappointment. However, when a person starts feeling that nothing they have planned has worked out is when despair sets in. in this article, we will give you some tips on how to deal with such situations.
Here Are A Few Things You Need To Start Doing When Life Does Not Turn Out The Way You Want It To:
Revisit the plans you made: Sometimes plans don’t work out because not enough thought has gone into them while conceiving them. This could be the reason for their failure and it is important for you to realize what these mistakes were instead of believing that it was happenstance that things did not work out. The important caveat here is that you need to revisit your plans once to know where things went wrong but not revisit them ad nauseum.
Learn from your mistakes: The important aspect of mistakes as many wise people would tell you is not to repeat them and also to look for lessons from them. It is therefore vital for future success that you learn from the past mistakes and ensure that these do not get repeated in the future.
Revise some plans: In some cases, the failure of your plans could be reversible with a bit of tweaking and this is something that you should consider when you revisit your old plans. For instance, if your plan was to build two separate homes at two different locations(one for residence and the other as a holiday home), which did not work out, you could consider building one in your current location and getting a holiday home on timeshare instead of outright ownership.
Acknowledge victories: While plans may have not turned out in the way you wanted it does not mean that you were defeated and in fact, you could have had some victories along the way. Just because these victories are not in line with the way you wanted them to be does not mean that they are not victories worth acknowledging.
Learn to laugh at follies: There is stage of self-castigation and guilt over not planning well or not executing a plan well, you should then turn to humor. It is good for most of us to look at the lighter side of life and have a nice laugh at past follies. In fact, this should be among some of the most powerful positive thinking techniques.
Do not compare: One of the main reasons that people continue to be bitter about the failure of their plans is because they tend to look at other people’s lives and feel bitter that theirs did not work out while the other person’s did. That is why it is important for all of us to keep in mind that each of us is a unique person with a unique life and comparing one with the other would be completely unjust. You will find that once you stop comparing your life with that of others, things do become better for you.
Be grateful for failures: We may not realize it at that time but sometimes the failure of a plan is a blessing in disguise. It could be something as shallow as a share that you did not purchase that fell in value or that girl or boy who refused to marry you turning out to be a bad person or the house you wanted to purchase but lost being in an unsafe area. In such cases or when failure teaches us a valuable life lesson, we should be grateful for failures.