Have you ever come across a person who does not seem that huge or particularly strong or even tough but seems to possess infinite strength in every way possible? They seem to shrug off their troubles, laugh over insults, take disasters with a smile and seem to power on no matter what. Have you ever looked at such people and wished that you too could be like that? We are sure that this is something that most of us who are observant would have noticed and longed for. Of course, there will always be those people who though well endowed with a lot of good fortune spend their lives whining about how tough life is for them. Nothing can be done for people who go through life with a frown on their face and dissatisfaction in their hearts. But if you are one of those who wants to grow as a person, then read on to know more.
When you really think about those people who are able to deal with all that life throws at them with a smile on their face, then you will realize that it is not that they are specially lucky or blessed but it is a matter of choice. Once you read this, we are sure that you will be confused, but the choice in this case is not picking out what life gives you but the choice of how to react when life gives you something that is not acceptable. Yes, life is tough for most of us and many a times we do not have a choice about what comes our way but we definitely have the choice about the way we react the way to whatever life throws at us.
The ability to do this is not something that comes easy and will only happen when you become mentally tough. While this may seem like something obvious when you read it, the thing is becoming mentally strong takes a lot of work as most of us are more likely to be more easily influenced by the negative than the positive. Many of you may deny this but just think about how many times you have been bummed out and low when you spend time with someone who is negative. On the other hand, how many times have you been cheered by someone’s positive mood when you are in the dumps?
Then is it impossible to become mentally strong unless you are born blessed in that way? Absolutely not, it is tough to do but definitely not impossible and most people who are mentally strong because they worked at it. May be they did not do this consciously but they have definitely worked at it. If you are thinking of doing the same then you need to learn about overcoming resistance to change, as this process will require a lot of change.
Here Are Some Steps That Will Help You Become Mentally Stronger:
Learn to look at the flip side: The thing is that when things go bad, we always tend to read too much into the situation but often when you look hard enough, then you will find that there is a good side to things. But to find this, you will need to look really hard and hold on to that positive side of yours with a firm hold. In some cases, the good side of a bad incident will become apparent only later.
Never lose your good humor: Having a good sense of humor means that you can laugh at many things and thing about laughter is that it spreads to others and resonates back to you. People who have a genuine sense of fun and humor tend to have people being drawn to them and this also gives them additional sources of strength to draw from. You will not believe how good and how empowering it is to be able to laugh at the tough times in life.
Make compartments: Another way to deal with tough times is to be able to put difficult parts of your life in compartments. For instance, if your home life is going through a tough patch, then you need to hold off on thinking about it while at work. This will ensure that your emotions and mind get a rest from your troubles while you are at your workplace. Doing this is not easy, but once you master it, you will find that your mind is refreshed and you will find better solutions too.
Talk, think and move on: When it comes to troubles, thinking too much and dwelling on them is not going to help. Yes, you need to talk things through, you need to think but once you have done that, it is time to move on. That is the step most people forget to do, which is moving on.
Learn to get your own rhythm: When it comes to dealing with the tougher aspects of your life, each of us have our own ways and that is why it is best for you to come up with something that works for you and use it to your best advantage.