They say that relationships are already so convoluted and complex that we would be better off without complicating them further. However, having said that we all know when it comes to matters of heart, hardly anyone has control on how things are going to pan out. How else can we explain the confusions and problems that we as the human race face all the time?
They say that a heart that is seeking love does not recognize any boundaries and simply wants what it wants. This has no relationship to logic or good sense. Having said all this, would you be surprised if we were to tell you that older women and younger men fall in love with each other sometimes and this in spite of society and social norms frowning upon things like this. However, love happens and when it happens, it is a like a tidal wave that no one can seem to control.
Older Woman Younger Man Relationship
Why is it that society frowns upon an association between an older woman with a younger man while the opposite does not even cause a ripple?
There are several reasons for this, the roots of which go back to the times when man was the head of the family and was charged with the responsibility of hunting and providing for the family. He was also in charge of protecting the family from outsiders and to do this he needed the entire family to listen to him and obey him. For this to happen his spouse had to be younger than him so that she would look up to him instead of challenging him at every turn. What is more biology also dictated that a younger woman would be more likely to be able to reproduce which in those days was another key to survival.
All these factors and many others necessitated that the man be older than the woman is. While all these points seem reasonable and logical in those days, they do not make much sense in today’s times. Women too step out of the home to work; they have also learned to take care of themselves placing them in a position that is equal to men if not higher.
However, some aspects of our way of life and thinking has become imprinted on our genetic makeup and this is what has become a norm. What is more, the normal human tendency is to view anything that is not the norm or something that talks of change is viewed with suspicion.
Here are some good as well as bad aspects of a younger man and older woman kind of relationship:
Enjoying the differences: The first thing you have to remember is that if a younger man is with an older woman, it is with the understanding on both sides that they enjoy the differences. Each knows that this is not the norm and still chose to be together because they enjoy the way their relationship differs from the so-called accepted norm.
Strong bonding: Since the attraction to each other and acceptance of the differences is already established and they have also faced the opposition of others towards their relationship, there is a likelihood that the bonding between the two is really strong.
Mature and confident woman: Let us face it, guys are always cribbing about their girlfriends lacking confidence, which in this case will not apply. This is because an older woman is more likely to be confident and sure of her own self. This can definitely work on making the relationship better at all levels.
The bad aspects of a relationship like this would include:
Different expectations from the future: Normally a woman who is a bit older is more likely to have a relationship where they can talk about a future together with commitments like building a home together and having kids. However, since the man is younger, he may not have reached that stage yet as he still needs to feel secure career and finance wise.
Insecurity on either side: Another negative aspect of a relationship like this is that either of both the parties involved can feel insecure. Since the woman is older in this case, she is likely to be better in terms of her career and finances and she is more likely to take charge of things. This could make the guy feel a bit inadequate. On the other hand, the guy is younger and sure of his looks but the woman may not be that sure of her looks and this could make her insecure. In a relationship, being insecure about any aspect can cause a sour note.
If you have to keep thinking about how to speak your mind without hurting others, then it is likely to create a definite strain in the relationship.