We look around at couples and find that some seem to be sailing along the stormy waters of life without much effort whereas many find it difficult to navigate the murky waters of marital life. It is not unusual for one or both in a couple to complain about how tough things are for them to their friends. This is because most couples do have problems either of their own making or genuine ones. You will find that people spend a lot of time speculating on why one couple is happy while another is not. Often people will attribute the success of the pairing to one part of the couple or conclude that they have been lucky.
While we believe meeting the person of your dreams and their liking you back could be a matter of fate and circumstances, being a success as a couple is not about luck. Many successful couples who have made their relationship work have some healthy habits that they have developed as a couple. More often than not, this is the result of a conscious effort but in some cases, it could be what they have learned from other successful couples around them. If there are some healthy habits that couples can look at, adopt, and make their relationship work, then why do couples not adopt this and make their relationship work? This is because most couples do not even realize where they are going wrong and in many cases, they are not ready to accept where they have gone wrong.
That is why, to start with we will give you some of the common pitfalls and mistakes that couples need to avoid before moving on to the healthy habits that the need to develop to make their relationship strong and healthy.
Here Are Some Common Pitfalls That Couples Need To Avoid:
Have unrealistic expectations: One of the main reasons that couple face problems with each other is due to unrealistic expectations they have from each other and their relationship. The man usually expects an angelic wife or partner who will do everything to make him comfortable while he goes about his own merry way. The woman expects the man to be adoring and understanding towards her no matter how she behaves or looks. This is just the starting point and from here onwards, things start spiralling downward.
Not talk things out: Another major mistake that many couples make is not keeping the lines of communication open. When one person in the couple feels that the other person has done something that has offended them, then the offended person tends to shut down expecting the other person to guess at what went wrong. This can be a big mistake, as the other person has no idea why their partner is sulking. It makes more sense to allow some time for things to cool down and talk things over in a calm manner. Here is where anger management and ways to cope with toxic reactions comes in handy.
Play needless games: One bigger mistake that couples should avoid is to completely avoid playing games with each other. This is something that many couples are prone to doing when they are in the dating stage but doing this once you are living together can be a big mistake. After all, living together is very different from simply dating or spending limited time together.
Here Are Some Healthy Habits That Help In Building Up A Strong Couple Relationship:
Have your own interests: One of the healthiest habits that a couple can develop to make their relationship stronger is learn to have their own interests and keep on following these. It could be as simple as taking out time to read a book or sing a song, but having some interest of your own makes you feel more fulfilled and this will make your interaction with your partner that much better.
Share responsibilities and authority: When you start a life together, there are many tasks and chores around the home that need to be done on a daily basis. Along with these responsibilities, you also have some authority, which you need to share with each other. In many cases, not having such clear definition of what needs to be done is what leads to future quarrels and problems.
Set aside some special time: While sharing work and having your own interests is something that is vital in a relationship, you also need to spend time together. Make it a point to set aside some time to spend with each other and make it a point not to let anything else intrude on this time.
Not hold on to grudges: We all are human and we can err once in a while and when you are in a relationship, these things get magnified. That is why, it becomes even more important that you not hold on to grudges and let things go when it comes to problems related to your partner.
Being in a relationship is not easy but it can be beautiful if things work out. In many cases, the base of a strong relationship depends on the healthy habits and attitude of the couple.