We all are seeking perfection in our lives and this is something that is worth pursuing. When it comes to our journey to seek a life partner, the level of perfection we expect becomes really high. Depending on the gender of the person, the expectation of perfection in one’s life partner would be that the person should be beautiful or handsome. We have often heard people say things like this is something that they are not ready to compromise on and that they will marry a person who would make their friends envy them.
In fact, we often talk about the person we expect to marry as if he or she were a paragon of their gender. That they should be good looking is something that we expect to be a given but beyond that the potential life partner would also be smart, sensitive, intelligent, rich and understanding. Depending on the age and the maturity level of the person who is, making the list for a future life partner as well as the esteem they hold themselves in, this list can become very extensive.
Is doing this so wrong? Some may ask. It is actually not wrong to have a list of expectations, around what you expect from a life partner. The only thing wrong about having a list of qualities that a potential life partner should have is when you make the list too shallow and too unrealistic. What is more think of this; what if your potential partner looks at you with a similar list and finds you lacking? You would feel as if the ground under you has become unstable and that everything you believed in is coming apart. That is why it becomes important that you take a step back and then see things in a very realistic way.
Here Are Some Steps To Take To Seek The Ideal Partner:
Look at yourself: While most of us would like to and aim to look like a model, most of us are not that blessed. It does not mean that we are ugly it just means that while most of us are good to look at and attractive enough, most of us would not be called upon to become the model of the year. What is more, let us take a step back from the superficial to look at the kind of person we are. Most of have a lot of good points and some shortcomings too. It is true that again, we would like to think of ourselves as being the perfect person to be with, but the truth is far from that. We all have some flaws and that is what makes the world so interesting and people so diverse.
Think of the kind of person you can be with at your lowest point: It is often at times of crisis or when you are feeling sad that you realize the most important truths of your life. For instance, who makes you feel good about yourself at such times or the kind of person who likes to be around when you are not at your best. That is indeed proof that the person has seen you at your worst and still wants to be with you and this is quality that a life person should also possess. Explore the qualities of such people who spend time with you at your worst without hesitation and include such qualities in your search for an ideal life partner.
Give importance to a sense of humor and kindness: We know that it is not at all fashionable today to be considered a nice person or as being seen as a kind person. However, believe us when we tell you that one cannot underestimate the value of a kind mind when it comes to a long-term relationship. It can make all the difference to your life. On the other hand, along with kindness, if your life partner also has a good sense of humor, you will find that you have a winning formula on your hands. A good laugh and a kind word are something that will keep you going no matter what. By looking for such qualities you will learn what friendship is all regarding and what role it plays in finding a life partner.
Looks matter but they are not the only thing: One of the reasons that many people are disappointed with a relationship is because they have picked a life partner based on only physical attraction. While looks and physical attraction are important in a relationship, it is not the only quality that you should look for. The kind of person that you marry also has to be someone that you like in the real sense and this means that you want to be around the person beyond just physical attraction. This is because physical attraction can only last for a certain amount of time and you need to have other things to base your relationship beyond that.
When you are looking for an ideal partner, do consider the points given above and also consider whether they are ideal for you and not just ideal by popular opinion.